Here’s the scene…you’re in a bar and see a stunning drop-dead gorgeous woman walk into the place alone. Though you’re in awe of her physical presence, you can’t possibly muster up the courage to talk to her because you’re intimidated. Then, you made some observations that lead to assumptions that you subconsciously use to judge her…even though it’s very possible that those assumptions have no factual justification.
Here are the seven biggest assumptions about beautiful women that need to come to an end.
- Self-Centered – The way she sips her drink, laughs, is dressed, her nails are manicured, or whatever gives off a sense of style and self-confidence that gets confused with being self-centered, narcissistic, or egomaniacal. Yes, all of those could be true, but it’s more likely that she’s just “comfortable in her own skin” and likes taking care of herself…but you won’t know because you’re too scared to start a conversation
- No Intelligence – It might be hard for some to believe, but it’s entirely possible for someone to be both wildly attractive AND smart…and being smart will likely make them even more attractive
- Preferential Treatment – Yes, society does tend to favor the attractive, so they do get more doors open for them than someone who isn’t as attractive in general terms. That said, assuming they expect the red carpet to be rolled out for them wherever they go is rude and dead wrong. How about giving someone the benefit of the doubt?
- High-Maintenance/Materialistic – This is one of the more common ones, and it’s totally subjective as there are different levels and definitions of what is and isn’t “high-maintenance.’ Labels based purely on looks show you can be as superficial and ignorant as you are judging her to be…and it’s based on just one visual impression
- Likely To Cheat – Just because they have more perceived cheating options doesn’t mean they’re a cheater…but with that attitude, you’re never going to find out…and might even drive her to leave if you keep it up
- No Insecurities – We’re all human…we all have insecurities. Yes, even the hot ones
- They Won’t Date You – There’s only one way to find this out for sure, and that’s to sack up and put yourself out there. If she says “no,” then you know and you move on. If she says “yes,” then hide your giddiness, get those six other things out of your head, put your best foot forward, and make the best experience it can be. Assuming they won’t go out with you is on you…not them
Sure, there are some who live up to each of these stereotypes, but that’s also true of people who aren’t what’s generally considered “attractive.” Giving a person a fair shot to show who they are is the only real way you’re ever going to find out. So, lose the assumptions and opt for finding a connection for more accurate data on who they are.
Source: Ask Men
